Perspectives on Grieving
I was eight years old when my parents divorced. I always say the age hit the sweet spot—I was old enough to understand what was going on, but far too young to be able to deal with the way it made me feel. When I was little, my dad was my idol and best friend. So many of my earliest memories are moments with him—shelling peanuts on the ground at Yankee Stadium, getting quizzed on state capitals at dinner, introducing him to my latest PlayStation game and still losing every time.
As a CPA, I have spent a good amount of time learning about and developing an understanding of taxes. However, in spite of its inevitability, I was never really taught how to cope with death. Being raised in the U.S. by immigrant parents, we didn’t have a lot of close family in the U.S. When death did come around, it was just for the adults. For some reason in our culture, kids never...
"Oh, no! Not again!" Lately, there has been way too much bad news! We hear about one tragedy on Monday only to learn of another on Tuesday. It's like being hit by a monster wave in the ocean, and when you've just found your legs the next wave knocks you over again. How can we cope? What can we hold onto? In times like this, we can look to the wisdom of others for hope and help.
Let’s imagine something different. Let’s Imagine a world where children coping with loss grow up emotionally healthy and able to lead meaningful and productive lives. Let’s imagine a world where grief, loss and trauma are transformed into resilience, empathy and compassion. So that someday the world is driven by love and compassion, and not unresolved grief.
"I was thinking about Imagine’s model of “companioning” and how it is a testament to inherent trust that the individual will do what they need to do. That it offers a path toward resiliency, growth, and assimilation of grief. It is an empowering model and a metaphor for what we do at Imagine. It helps to remember why we do it this way and to acknowledge the love we share." J
It is with a heavy heart that I reach out to you today with some resources on how to assist our children cope with the news of the recent attack in Manchester at the Ariana Grande concert.
Losing a loved one, or even a not so loved one, is often the hardest thing a person will have to go through in their lives. No matter who you are, “getting over it” (more on that later) doesn’t come easy, and perhaps never comes at all. I know it wasn’t easy for me. As hard as this challenge is for adults, it is even harder for children.
Mixing Bowl RFH (Recipe for Healing) is an experiment in kitchen therapy. The self-help program is still in its infancy so procedures will likely evolve as they grow. What will never change is their primary goal to help themselves and others through the grieving process by means of shared cooking and social interaction.
Mother's Day has always been, and continues to be, a difficult day for me. Though I believe I had it easier than many children that lost a mother because my Grandmother stepped in to raise me after my Mom died. My Grandma became my Mom… but it was not the same.
Many people define their lives by worldwide events. Pearl Harbor Day, JFK's assassination, Man Walking On the Moon, Nixon's Resignation, The Attack on the World Trade Center. For 4 people, the defining moment of their lives was June 9th, 1971. Almost 46 years ago, those 4 people lost the center of their universe, and their lives were forever defined as "before" and "after".