Perspectives on Grieving
I was too little when my mom died (age 6) to have any idea what I needed emotionally. I took my cues from the grown-ups around me, such as, not to talk or ask about mom too much, not to talk about how our family had changed or what it was like having her in and out of the hospital for 9 months, etc. etc.
Prudential Financial with its brilliant Masterpiece of Love and Sheryl Sandberg’s Option B have both provided a way for all of us to tell our stories of loss.
As I popped onto facebook briefly on Tuesday, I learned about the chemical attack that took place in Syria. This was the first I had heard of an attack. Scrolling through my feed, there it was. I was confronted with the absolute carnage of it all – videos of people writhing in pain, people gasping for air, dying, many of them children. It was only a few seconds before I started crying, and shortly after that, short of breath. My asthma had been triggered so I put my phone down.
Create a Good Mourning Workplace with Imagine. "I see a direct link not only with our health and wellness initiatives, but also our diversity and inclusion commitment by offering grief support in the workplace. Fostering an environment where each employee feels they can bring their full, authentic self to work is so important. And having colleagues who are allies for inclusion, who are comfortable just listening or talking about this often taboo topic, is a win. Imagine offers the resources and training to deliver on this support and I am grateful to be able to offer their services to to my employees.” Sheila Rostiac, VP Total Rewards & Talent Management, PSEG Services Corporation
In her article Circles of Love, author Kate Braestrup describes a visit to her children’s psychologist after their father’s death. “My children are suffering,” I told the psychologist. “They cry, Sometimes they don’t want to eat, they have dreams from which they awaken, weeping. What can I do to make the suffering stop?” The child psychologist said to me, gently, “Their father died.” “I know…
This past weekend our community suffered a loss – an unexpected and devastating loss, of a young woman, Terry DiFalco.
It is real, and it is painful, and modern medicine has proven it.
“Tears are of extreme relevance for human nature. We cry because we need other people." Dr. Ad Vingerhoets
Maria Housden's article in "We Need Not Walk Along," the national magazine of The Compassionate Friends, described as “a support group in print,” featuring articles by and for parents, siblings, and grandparents who are grieving the death of a child in their family.
How can we cope and take care of ourselves in the midst of trauma and loss. As we move through this holiday season with all of its expectations and commitments, please remember to be gentle with yourself and practice good self care.