The death of a parent in the community can bring about the desire in others to help. The urgency to respond is common. Being thoughtful in our responses to our own grief is important. This death can be activating for individuals, bringing up fear and loss of control.
First, seek support for yourself, not from the immediate family. Collaborate with others on your support and create a thoughtful plan of action. Rely on the direction of those closest to the family to share news and preferences of the immediate family.
The initial shock of the loss and the logistics of death can be all consuming for the family in the early days. Be sure to follow their lead and respect privacy, boundaries and requests.
Simple words of care and concern can go a long way in the early days. Remember that grief has no timeline and on-going support for the family is essential. Sustain your care for the family for the long term because grief never ends.